And it’s Hello from Me….

Hi there, My Name’s Tom and I kinda run things over here at GenForward. A chunk of my time will be spent putting out blogs and trying my best to respond to as many of our member’s comments and issues as it’s humanly possible to do. Given that it’s likely there’s going to be a lot of stuff written by me all over the site, I thought it might not be a bad idea to tell you a little about myself and my background, so that it may give you some context for some of the blogs I might write and the responses I may give. Ok, first off, I need to say that I’m not one of those people who have a built in need tell the world every little detail of my life as it happens. I’m in my late 40’s now, married and have one son. I…

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Answer Questions With Stories

Start building your living legacy with our free genealogy website today! GenForward is all about leaving a real legacy for future generations. Until very recently, the predominant method for passing on tribal and cultural knowledge, has been through the passing on of stories. Be it the rich verbal histories of the native American or Aboriginal peoples, the countless myths and legends of of Europe or Asia, or Jesus using parables to communicate his message to the masses, people just respond better to stories than simple facts. GenForward’s questions are really just meant to be an aide to help provoke memories, and to get to your own stories that future generations will understand, and can relate to. It’s not the hundreds of questions that make GenForward what it is, it’s your answers and how they resonate with you friends, family, and future generations. On the face of things, many questions could…

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How Did We Ever Survive?!?

I look at the way life is today, and the way children are handled not only in my own house, but it seems most others round here. Then I look back at the way things were when I grew up and you know what, it may be amazing that I survived childhood, but the outcome is totally different in terms of self-confidence, independence and resilience. The trend today seems to be to treat children more like they are fragile little flowers, with parents swooping in to deliver a hug or wipe a nose or whatever depending on the “disaster” at hand. When I was brought up, things might have been like that for the first three, MAYBE 4 years, but that was it. At 5 we were chucked off to “Play School”, with a bunch of other uncoordinated accidents waiting to happen, and basically given the ammunition to wreak havoc.…

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Thing’s Ain’t What they Used to Be…

I’m not quite ready for my pine box yet, however I have been around long enough to watch a great deal of change in both things like technology (I was a proud owner of one of the first Binatone black and white pong machines and have been a gamer all my life), and the general zeitgeist in regard to pretty much most other areas of life. I was talking with my son a few days ago, prompted by a massive whine from him about him having to do chores. To put some perspective on this, he’s 11 years old and is expected to empty bins, unload and put away the contents of the dishwasher, grab the mail as he walks past on his way back from school, tidy his bedroom, playroom, bathroom (a child having their own bathroom! Not in 1970’s England we didn’t!), and setting the table for dinner.…

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Of Course We’re All A Bit Odd…

Warning! Younger readers or those not from the UK may think I am making up much of the following. A brief trip round Google and YouTube will prove otherwise! People often comment that I have a somewhat strange perspective on life, however I have noticed that many people around my age are replete with all kinds of strange quirks and character traits. Of course you could put this down to being a result of the ageing process, gaining life experiences and getting things into perspective. More recently however, prompted by mental journeys back into childhood in order to have content for this blog, I have begun to think that there may actually have been more sinister forces afoot. A dark government (or even bigger) plot, to carry out some kind of consciousness alteration experiment on a whole generation. I refer of course to children’s television of the 1970’s. I believe…

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Draft Week: Football Addiction, A Precautionary Tale

Draft week is finally here!! As a result I’m going to spend a bit of time on today’s Genforward Living Legacy genealogy blog talking about the guts and the glory that is, the best sport on earth. Although I originate from the UK, I am really not a fan of British football (the one where you actually use your feet). In my younger days, I did go to matches occasionally and must confess to following Spurs in the golden era of Hoddle, Waddle, Ardiles and Villa (google some of the goals, really). The game in the modern era has just become far too soft for my tastes, plus lets just say, it’s been a fairly painful experience following the England national team over the decades (a set of emotions perfectly personified in the truly brilliant movie, Mike Basset, England Manager). No, despite being from the right side of the pond,…

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Why It’s Hard For Kids To Be Free (Incorporating “Texas Rules Of The Road”)

In today’s GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog I am touching again on the subject of encouraging independence in my son. This time I am looking at first of all, how things were when I grew up and how that let me grow gradually in independence and self reliance. Secondly I am looking at the reality of our lives today, and how living where we do actually puts up some barriers to this kind of organic growth in my son’s life: I have written in the past several times on the subject of how kids today seem to be far less independent that we used to be back in pre-history when I was growing up. I have to face the fact that despite all of the efforts we might make to poke my son into standing on his won two feet and spreading his wings a bit, the issue of independent mobility…

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Embrace The Difference: American Stereotypes

I have been asked by a few people to maybe spend a little time looking at the differences between life over here and life back in the UK. These differences are many and varied, so I thought in today’s GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog I’d start with some of the basic fundamentals. Let me just make it clear though before I start, the things I touch on here are differences I have observed. I’m not saying one way is right, the other wrong. As I have written in previous articles, I have no issue at all with people not being the same, it’s what makes the world go round. Given the tug of war between an American life and schooling, and me at home throwing in my two pence worth, I’m not sure how my boy’s going to turn out. Maybe best of both worlds: So, let’s start with some pre-conceptions…

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More Classic 70’s Children’s TV

in today's GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog, I have the urge to write about some more of the children's TV we were exposed to in the 1970's:   I still remember to this day standing outside the local cinema in the queue in 1977 waiting to watch Star Wars and simply not realising what was about to happen to the world. As a small boy, film and TV had a big influence on me, and some of my strongest memories of childhood revolve around TV shows and movies. I really don’t know how to compare it to today though as I was brought up in kind of a cross over period (1970’s-1980’s) for TVs and movies. In the UK we had three TV channels. That’s your lot. Whilst it wasn’t quite such a big deal to own a TV, most people only had one and we’re talking maybe 21 inch…

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Our Old Friend, Mr. Alcohol

I have talked before in some of the earlier GenForward Living Legacy free genealogy blogs, about wishing that my son was showing more in the way of independence, and being more like I was when I was dragged up in the 1970’s. Writing some of the lists of music and talking about concerts I had been to, then started me thinking about what I was potentially letting myself in for if he was even remotely as bad....err...independent as me. One aspect of my early independence I’d like him to stay well clear of was my early dealings with alcohol. The licensing laws in the UK are different to USA, allowing alcohol to be purchased at the age of 18 instead of 21. Enforcement of the law was also far slacker in my day, especially living in the country as we did. I started my pub drinking career at about 13. I…

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Education Is For The Children, Not The Schools

Today in the GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog, I’m looking at the education system. I’m not an expert educator, nor am I claiming to be. What I am good at however is looking at what’s going on around me and drawing some fairly obvious “common sense” conclusions from the actions that I see (always remembering that you have to ignore a lot of the propaganda, it’s the actions that tell you what’s really happening): The end of another school year looms and its set me to thinking, surely there’s a better way to approach children’s education and a better calendar than the one that gets used, in terms of making everything as beneficial to the student as possible. I’m not suggesting that there should be no school holidays (although I do think they should be far shorter); the thing that I have really noticed is the affect the constant stop/start seems…

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Easy British Fish And Chips Recipe – And Other Good UK Stuff

In todays GenForward Living Legacy free genealogy online blog, I am looking at some of the differences between foods we get in the UK and USA, and things that are hard to get in the USA. My son really only knows his American upbringing, but he still gets exposed to British stuff at home. He loves (and his friends always go mad for when they come for sleepovers) British pancakes rather than American ones (will maybe do that recipe another time). He likes Yorkshire Puddings with his roast beef, he's working on his taste for curry and he loves proper fish and chips. Though we're certainly in no hurry to go back to the UK, there's certain things that you miss after a lifetime growing up there. I do most of the cooking myself and I do try to get my son involved so that hopefully he'll be able to do this stuff for himself…

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Confessions Of A 40 Year Gaming Addict (Part 1)

In today’s GenForward Living Legacy free genealogy blog, I’m going to delve back into a subject that is still a big love of mine to this day. “My name is Tom, and I’m a gameaholic”. I’ve never really been clear of it, but now am old enough to not let the problem get in the way of real life. Sadly this hasn’t always been the case. It’s obviously something my son has readily picked up on as ever since he was small there’s been multiple different consoles and computers about to game on. I do enforce time limits on him though, sadly something that was never really done with me: Some weeks ago I put out a couple of articles about the toys we had as kids growing up in the 1970’s and early 80’s. It was a really interesting time to be growing up as there was a lot…

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Sweet Treats And Cigarettes

In today’s GenForward living legacy free online genealogy website blog, I am casing my mind back to the days of my childhood and looking at some of the sweets and snacks that we grew up with and loved as kids, some of which are still around, but some of which would no longer be considered politically correct: I have always had a bit of a soft spot for coconut. The first of my personal favourites from childhood is one the certainly falls under the not politically correct heading. Spanish Gold was basically kind of crunchy sugar coated coconut strands. All exceedingly unhealthy I’m sure but the main issue was it was packaged and sold to represent chewing or rolling tobacco. I loved the stuff and to be fair I’m really not sure how much of an effect the tobacco advertising element really had on me. First off, if you eat…

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Hybrid Healthcare Could Be The Way

In today’s GenForward free online genealogy blog I will be talking a little bit about a subject that has been pretty much front and centre since our arrival in America, but that to us a Brits all seems a bit of an odd argument. This article has been prompted with a discussion I was having with my son about entitlement in general. I just noticed that a lot of the points we talked about on the healthcare front never really seemed to come out in the media arguments surrounding Obamacare or it’s repeal, nobody ever really gave the full picture of how it actually works in practice. It’s also something that most of Europe seems to manage perfectly well: Healthcare. It sometimes feels like America is the only country in the civilised world without a decent healthcare system. Just to be very clear here, I’m talking about the system for…

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Classic Children’s Looks From The 70’s And 80’s

In today’s Genforward free online genealogy website blog I thought I’d take a look at some of the fashion items that being back memories, a subject my son had been asking about recently since he has been given a bit of freedom in choosing his own clothes etc. now. Some of these items are from childhood, some from teenage life (when things really get messed up as far as any sense of style goes!). Anyway, hope some of these bring back a few memories for you: Ok, so the 1970’s and 80’s weren’t exactly a hotbed of couture style. What with the punk era, new romantics and goths to contend with, dress sense could go a bit out of the window when left in the hands of impressionable children like us. Let’s start with a classic from the days of school......... Yes, the cutting edge child’s athletic footwear of the…

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More ways the 70’s child invented to cheat death

I just recently posted what at the time was a flippant comment on a post about how we basically didn’t do health and safety growing up in the 1970’s. It reminded me of a previous article I had written and also set my memory running onto other stuff that we used to do as kids without giving it a second thought. My son also finds these stories hilarious so time for another one I guess in today's Genforward free online genealogy website blog:   Now let me start by saying, I’m a believer in kids being kids and getting up to stuff and into scrapes generally. It’s a part of growing up as far as I’m concerned. We certainly did it aplenty in the 70’s and most of us survived to adulthood as relatively rounded human beings. These days though, there does seem to be a massive dose of over-protection…

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10 Signs You’re Probably A Child Of The 70s

Today in the Genforward free online genealogy website blog I thought I’d just keep it simple and look at some of the things that for me really defined my childhood during the 70’s:   You know you’re a child of the 70’s if: 1)      Knee protectors meant skin   2)      Some Of These Plus one of these Made this Into one of these   3)     You consider this to be commercial grade safety crash airbag suitable for safe landings from all heights (also note the correct location for sourcing these items)     4)      You were given these to play with as opposed to being arrested for carrying them as a weapon   5)      This was a gun with which you could lay waste to the Nazis (hey, it was the 70’s)   6)      When not on you bike, this could be considered transport   7)      This was a mobile phone…

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The Nose Have It!

In today’s Genforward free online genealogy blog I’ll be talking about my recent absence from the blog and posting, and the life lessons that come with this story that has affected about ¾ of my life. No, I haven’t been upsetting the wrong people in bars, I went in to have a “nose job”. This was not however the typical vanity number that is so popular these days, I’m just not that type really. No, this one was a total nasal reconstruction to actually allow me to breathe through my nose properly for pretty much the first time in over 30 years. Let me share with you a bit of a “before” image to give you an idea of how bad we’re talking here. Essentially the cartilage was jammed up through my nasal opening and the bones up there were just in chunks. So, how did we come to be…

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