How Did We Ever Survive?!?

I look at the way life is today, and the way children are handled not only in my own house, but it seems most others round here. Then I look back at the way things were when I grew up and you know what, it may be amazing that I survived childhood, but the outcome is totally different in terms of self-confidence, independence and resilience. The trend today seems to be to treat children more like they are fragile little flowers, with parents swooping in to deliver a hug or wipe a nose or whatever depending on the “disaster” at hand. When I was brought up, things might have been like that for the first three, MAYBE 4 years, but that was it. At 5 we were chucked off to “Play School”, with a bunch of other uncoordinated accidents waiting to happen, and basically given the ammunition to wreak havoc.…

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Pt 2: Whisky And Me

Whisky And Me (Pt2) I will of course be giving my son a solid grounding in the world of whisky. Below are some of the basics of Scottish whisky and a few of my personal favourites. Scotch falls into four basic types: Lowland These are from the southern border regions and tend to be fairly light often featuring floral, fruity, and vanilla type flavours and aromas. Islay The island of Islay has several distilleries and these tend to produce stronger tasting and more heavily ‘peaty’ whisky which has a more smoky taste to it. Personally I find these more of an acquired taste but they do go very well with a good cigar on a cold night. As ever there is always an exception to the rule which I’ll come to later. Speyside This region in North East of Scotland around the river Spey produces whiskies that tend to be…

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To Challenge Or To Censor

Today on my GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog I am talking about one of my great loves, the movies. I started out just talking about TV as we were growing up (I’ll go back and finish this one another time), but as I moved onto my life in the late 70’s and early 80’s and started to talk about things we watched, the article ended up being a much broader overview of censorship and what children are exposed to, and how this has influenced how I treat my son today:   Once we got out of the early 70’s and into the early 80’s the world really began to open up with the mass advent of the Video Recorder. In the UK, the establishment just wasn’t ready for the video recorder. I recall clearly that the “pirating” of videos was commonplace, and there was basically no certification. My mum used…

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Deny, Deny, Then Blame Something Else!

Today's GenForward Living Legacy Genealogy blog is on the subject of accountability, driven mainly by a genuinely mind bending attempt at non accountability by my son last night. I have always been a big proponent of having the courage of my convictions. I have been in many situations in my life where I have had to make decisions that had potentially big impacts, often without always having all of the information at hand that one would want. As with any human being, those decisions were not always the right ones when viewed with hindsight. Regardless, I would always try not to shy away from the decision I had made, primarily because when making choices I always try to make sure I do it with the "right" motivation. What I mean by this is really things like considering others before myself, what is morally the right thing to do, and primarily, will I…

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Why It’s Hard For Kids To Be Free (Incorporating “Texas Rules Of The Road”)

In today’s GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog I am touching again on the subject of encouraging independence in my son. This time I am looking at first of all, how things were when I grew up and how that let me grow gradually in independence and self reliance. Secondly I am looking at the reality of our lives today, and how living where we do actually puts up some barriers to this kind of organic growth in my son’s life: I have written in the past several times on the subject of how kids today seem to be far less independent that we used to be back in pre-history when I was growing up. I have to face the fact that despite all of the efforts we might make to poke my son into standing on his won two feet and spreading his wings a bit, the issue of independent mobility…

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More Classic 70’s Children’s TV

in today's GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog, I have the urge to write about some more of the children's TV we were exposed to in the 1970's:   I still remember to this day standing outside the local cinema in the queue in 1977 waiting to watch Star Wars and simply not realising what was about to happen to the world. As a small boy, film and TV had a big influence on me, and some of my strongest memories of childhood revolve around TV shows and movies. I really don’t know how to compare it to today though as I was brought up in kind of a cross over period (1970’s-1980’s) for TVs and movies. In the UK we had three TV channels. That’s your lot. Whilst it wasn’t quite such a big deal to own a TV, most people only had one and we’re talking maybe 21 inch…

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There’s No Time Like…Oh Tomorrow Will Do…

People procrastinate. It’s just a fact. I can be as guilty as the next person of putting off till tomorrow what would better be done today. Another incident yesterday with my son made me reflect on the whole GenForward Living Legacy genealogy project and what it really means so, for a change in one of my blogs, rather than share some funny life stories, I’d like to share with you a bit about GenForward as it sits today, what it will be in the future, and what really motivates us to get behind this project. I was once again going through what has recently become, the saga of the Math’s homework. My son is not a fan of math. He’s not bad at it by any stretch of the imagination, he just doesn’t really like it. Moreover, he sees homework as a chore. Unfortunately, much as both my wife and…

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First Step To Independence….At A Price…

I am sure that those of you who regularly read my various rambling stories and rants on this GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog, are more than aware of my ongoing struggle to get some more independence of action out of my son. Well, it was Mother’s Day in the USA yesterday (its on different dates in different places), and I saw the first signs that there’s a mind capable if independent thought and action in my son’s head. That, for me, was a big positive, but it did come at a cost. When I was a small boy, I never needed reminding of my mother’s birthday or mother’s day. From quite an early age, I would always make sure there was the appropriate gift delivered, albeit usually in a plastic bag, to her by my own fair hand. The form of this gift changed over the years. Very early on…

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Education Is For The Children, Not The Schools

Today in the GenForward Living Legacy genealogy blog, I’m looking at the education system. I’m not an expert educator, nor am I claiming to be. What I am good at however is looking at what’s going on around me and drawing some fairly obvious “common sense” conclusions from the actions that I see (always remembering that you have to ignore a lot of the propaganda, it’s the actions that tell you what’s really happening): The end of another school year looms and its set me to thinking, surely there’s a better way to approach children’s education and a better calendar than the one that gets used, in terms of making everything as beneficial to the student as possible. I’m not suggesting that there should be no school holidays (although I do think they should be far shorter); the thing that I have really noticed is the affect the constant stop/start seems…

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Easy British Fish And Chips Recipe – And Other Good UK Stuff

In todays GenForward Living Legacy free genealogy online blog, I am looking at some of the differences between foods we get in the UK and USA, and things that are hard to get in the USA. My son really only knows his American upbringing, but he still gets exposed to British stuff at home. He loves (and his friends always go mad for when they come for sleepovers) British pancakes rather than American ones (will maybe do that recipe another time). He likes Yorkshire Puddings with his roast beef, he's working on his taste for curry and he loves proper fish and chips. Though we're certainly in no hurry to go back to the UK, there's certain things that you miss after a lifetime growing up there. I do most of the cooking myself and I do try to get my son involved so that hopefully he'll be able to do this stuff for himself…

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Confessions Of A 40 Year Gaming Addict (Part 2)

Ok, here we go again with today’s GenForward Living Legacy free genealogy blog. This time it’s back as promised for part two of my confessional about my history with video games and how at times it got well, out of hand. Now we move onto the real big problem areas: After my Amiga I had a bit of a break from gaming generally as life kinda got in the way. I moved out of home, moved houses a couple of times, bought a house, moved from the country to London, basically I was all over the place. Then the mid 90’s hit. A little sanity returned to my life, and I had time to re-engage with my gaming addiction. I have always been a PlayStation Guy. Have had all 4 generations, more than one of some generations. Even now I have a PS3 and PS4 sat hooked in upstairs in…

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Adventure, Divorce, or Eaten by Bear?

In today’s GenForward living legacy free online genealogy blog I’m considering the milestone we’re about to hit this weekend. Our son is about to go to his first “stay away” summer camp: For me, as I am sure for many others of you out there, the summer school holiday period is a real pain. I work a lot from home and to have the level of distraction created by one or more hyperactive near teens bouncing around the house is more than I want to be dealing with, especially for 3 months. I have already instigated a routine where he gets himself up, dressed and breakfasted to some degree, often his signature dish of “egg”, either fried or boiled with some toast, but at least he’s fed without bothering me. He then does a couple of hours of some kind of productive learning. At the moment, it’s Polish language practice…

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Sweet Treats And Cigarettes

In today’s GenForward living legacy free online genealogy website blog, I am casing my mind back to the days of my childhood and looking at some of the sweets and snacks that we grew up with and loved as kids, some of which are still around, but some of which would no longer be considered politically correct: I have always had a bit of a soft spot for coconut. The first of my personal favourites from childhood is one the certainly falls under the not politically correct heading. Spanish Gold was basically kind of crunchy sugar coated coconut strands. All exceedingly unhealthy I’m sure but the main issue was it was packaged and sold to represent chewing or rolling tobacco. I loved the stuff and to be fair I’m really not sure how much of an effect the tobacco advertising element really had on me. First off, if you eat…

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Hybrid Healthcare Could Be The Way

In today’s GenForward free online genealogy blog I will be talking a little bit about a subject that has been pretty much front and centre since our arrival in America, but that to us a Brits all seems a bit of an odd argument. This article has been prompted with a discussion I was having with my son about entitlement in general. I just noticed that a lot of the points we talked about on the healthcare front never really seemed to come out in the media arguments surrounding Obamacare or it’s repeal, nobody ever really gave the full picture of how it actually works in practice. It’s also something that most of Europe seems to manage perfectly well: Healthcare. It sometimes feels like America is the only country in the civilised world without a decent healthcare system. Just to be very clear here, I’m talking about the system for…

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Classic Children’s Looks From The 70’s And 80’s

In today’s Genforward free online genealogy website blog I thought I’d take a look at some of the fashion items that being back memories, a subject my son had been asking about recently since he has been given a bit of freedom in choosing his own clothes etc. now. Some of these items are from childhood, some from teenage life (when things really get messed up as far as any sense of style goes!). Anyway, hope some of these bring back a few memories for you: Ok, so the 1970’s and 80’s weren’t exactly a hotbed of couture style. What with the punk era, new romantics and goths to contend with, dress sense could go a bit out of the window when left in the hands of impressionable children like us. Let’s start with a classic from the days of school......... Yes, the cutting edge child’s athletic footwear of the…

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More ways the 70’s child invented to cheat death

I just recently posted what at the time was a flippant comment on a post about how we basically didn’t do health and safety growing up in the 1970’s. It reminded me of a previous article I had written and also set my memory running onto other stuff that we used to do as kids without giving it a second thought. My son also finds these stories hilarious so time for another one I guess in today's Genforward free online genealogy website blog:   Now let me start by saying, I’m a believer in kids being kids and getting up to stuff and into scrapes generally. It’s a part of growing up as far as I’m concerned. We certainly did it aplenty in the 70’s and most of us survived to adulthood as relatively rounded human beings. These days though, there does seem to be a massive dose of over-protection…

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10 Signs You’re Probably A Child Of The 70s

Today in the Genforward free online genealogy website blog I thought I’d just keep it simple and look at some of the things that for me really defined my childhood during the 70’s:   You know you’re a child of the 70’s if: 1)      Knee protectors meant skin   2)      Some Of These Plus one of these Made this Into one of these   3)     You consider this to be commercial grade safety crash airbag suitable for safe landings from all heights (also note the correct location for sourcing these items)     4)      You were given these to play with as opposed to being arrested for carrying them as a weapon   5)      This was a gun with which you could lay waste to the Nazis (hey, it was the 70’s)   6)      When not on you bike, this could be considered transport   7)      This was a mobile phone…

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The Nose Have It!

In today’s Genforward free online genealogy blog I’ll be talking about my recent absence from the blog and posting, and the life lessons that come with this story that has affected about ¾ of my life. No, I haven’t been upsetting the wrong people in bars, I went in to have a “nose job”. This was not however the typical vanity number that is so popular these days, I’m just not that type really. No, this one was a total nasal reconstruction to actually allow me to breathe through my nose properly for pretty much the first time in over 30 years. Let me share with you a bit of a “before” image to give you an idea of how bad we’re talking here. Essentially the cartilage was jammed up through my nasal opening and the bones up there were just in chunks. So, how did we come to be…

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Nose 2, was it worth it?

In today’s Genforward free online genealogy blog I will be picking up where I left off on the saga of the new nose!   Ok, when I last left you it was the day before I was due to go back to have the stitches and splints removed from my rebuilt nasal appendage. This was actually supposed to be a bit of a non event. All very simple and straightforward. Of course, it wasn’t........ The whole operation side of things had been fairly straightforward. I was wheeled in, put on the rear opening dignity stripper gown, and then hooked up to some electronics and a drip. Given how much of a mess my nose was before we started, there was a possibility the surgeon would need some extra cartilage to rebuild things so I had to nominate an ear for him to steal the cartilage from. Given that I had…

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